Imagine you are working on a big carpentry project (this will be more of a stretch for some of us than others!). What would be more helpful to you? A person handing you just one nail at the right time, but nothing else, or a person who gives you a whole toolbox from which to choose after first showing you how to use each tool? Kind of obvious, right? A nail helps you in this minute. It gets the job done but nothing more. A toolbox, on the other hand, has infinite uses and gives you more control (you’re not waiting for someone to hand you the next nail). Coaching parents is much the same.